Life at RDC

Making the Transition

Is going away to college harder on the parent, or the student? The truth is that it’s tough on both of you ... while you’re dealing with a quieter home and the anxiety of your child being on their own, your child is dealing with a ton of pressure ... to do well in school, to spend wisely, to meet new friends and to adjust to college life.

Here are some common anxieties your son or daughter will soon feeling once they are accepted to study at RDC ... and how you can help them through the school year!

Month  Typical Feelings  How You Can Help
September
  • Some big realizations - post-secondary is tough and your child will likely need to buckle down a little more than they thought
  • Research some time management tips and be prepared to offer suggestions if your child asks how you would handle researching and writing that big essay
 
  • Homesick - your child is probably missing your homecooked meals by now!
  • Start thinking about Thanksgiving plans; or speak to your child about the next time they may be thinking of coming home
 
  • Excited - your child is meeting new friends and has started to make some new connections
  • Allow your child to talk about the new friends he or she has met
   
  • Students love getting mail! Send them a litlte note to let them know you're thinking about them
October
  • Nervous - midterms are coming up and this will be the first time your son or daughter have experienced this type of exam
  • Support your child if he or she is having troubles juggling multiple projects, deadlines and exams - they may feel very stressed ... give them some breathing room if needed
 
  • Changing friendships - your son or daughter is likely to grow apart from their high school best friend ... which may cause some anxiety
  • Comfort your child that he or she will still be able to see high school buds
November
  • More exams? Really? Your student is probably feeling pretty worn out ... the first half of the school year is almost done!
  • Reassure your child that anxiousness over exams is very common - they are doing great and you're very proud of him or her!
  • Lots of projects and papers due
  • This may be the perfect time to send a care package
  • Financial stress - money may be running out faster than they anticipated
December
  • Your child will be very busy preparing for final exams ... and likely very stressed!
  • Keep them focused on the positives
  • May start to wonder if all of this time and effort is really worth it ... they may be wondering if they'll be able to make it through the two to four years of schooling
  • Ask if there's anything you can do to help. Remind them that a post-secondary education will pay off in the long run!
January
  • Probably a little blue ... days are still short, they have just come back from a nice break, only to realize they are only half way through the school year
  • If they haven't already done so, encourage them to join a student group or play on an intramural team
  • Starting to think about summer
  • Get them thinking about summer employment - help them brainstorm possible options that will help them with their future career
  • Receiving first term grades
  • Help to share their joy (or sadness) once Fall term marks come out
February
  • Starting to think about a specialization (if currently in General Studies)
  • Help them work through their options for specializing - if you have any friends that are curretnly working in their desired industry, get them connected for an informational interview
  • Reading break
March
  • Summer plans finalized
  • Let them know you miss them, but try not to show your disappointment if their summer employment plans take them away from home
  • More projects due
  • Pressure of final exams mounts
April
  • While stress may be at an all-time high, excitement is startinig to form that they made it through their first year!
  • Let them know how proud of them you are for sticking with the schooling ... show empathy that you understand how difficult getting a post-secondary education can be
  • May feel a bit of anxiety leaving their new friends and wondering if summer employment plans will work out

Freedom of Information and Protection of Privacy Act (FOIPP)

Even though you may still feel responsible for your son or daughter, once they apply and are accepted to the College, they are considered to be an adult at the age of 18. As such, the student is solely responsible for attending classes, completing homework and exams and submitting required documentation. Under the Provincial law, we cannot release any personal information of any student to another individual without prior written consent of the student. While it may be important for you to know the academic standing or your son or daughter, or how often they are attending classes, we encourage you to allow your child to have as much autonomy as possible. Learning and growing as a ‘new’ adult are important life lessons that will contribute to continued success in the future years.